Chivalry Is Not Dead...

The definition of Chivalry is "the medieval principles governing knighthood and knightly conduct; courtesy towards women." Contrary to popular belief, chivalry is very much alive. Women have come along way in the past century and have established an equality with men. Although women have developed independence and self sufficiency, they still enjoy being treated like a lady. Unfortunately, many men today feel that chivalry is old fashioned and fail to act gentlemanly. Women can fend for themselves but most would prefer for men to act courteous towards them. By being attentive, guys send a message that the girl they are with is very special and deserves to be treated right. Once again, simple things such as opening a car door or paying for a movie ticket is all it takes to make a great impression. A chivalrous attitude brings a much needed breath of fresh air to modern society.

Say What?!

Understanding that girls remember the little things is also very important when you want to communicate with them. It is a known fact that most females "read into" things boys say. For example: A woman is getting ready in the morning and asks her husband his opinion on her outfit. His response? "You look fine." This comment may not seem offensive but for the wife, it is disaster. "You look fine" translated into girl terms means you look horrible. Now the woman is concerned that her appearance is sub par so she frantically raids her closet looking for something better and spends the rest of the day feeling self conscious. For boys, this probably seems ridiculous, but girls can't help it. We are emotional and I can't stress that enough. Since we are so emotional we expect boys to be able to connect on that emotional level with us, and when they are unable to do that, we get disappointed. By changing "you look fine" to "you look great" makes all the difference in the world. Not only does it boost our confidence, it makes us happy. I'm not saying you should spend your entire day trying to please a girl or complimenting her every second, just think about what you are saying and how you say it.

It's a question that has been asked many times before: what do girls want? The answer to this question may seem complicated, but in reality it's very simple. Guys think they have girls completely figured out, but a cliche relationship with roses on Valentine's day isn't what we have in mind. The basis in understanding what girls want is realizing that we enjoy simplicity. Maybe it's a sweet text out of the blue, or a compliment on our new outfit: we remember the little things. Girls are more likely to respond to something thoughtful because we are emotional creatures. For example: A man buys a present for his wife. He gives the gift to her and she is overjoyed. She asks her husband why he got her the gift and his response is "because you are my wife and I have too." Suddenly the happiness fades and the gift loses its meaning. What if the man had responded by saying "I got you this gift because I love you and you make me happier than anyone else in the whole world!" Ok, that may be a little mushy, but you get the picture. We want guys to like us as much as we like them. You don't need a fancy dinner or something extravagant to impress us. What a guy may think is insignificant might turn out to be extremely important.